Why I declined Fela’s marriage proposal- Onyeka Onwenu


Being in the eye of the public sometimes comes with unfounded backlashes and for iconic singer, actor and author, Onyeka Onwenu, it was tales of rumours about affairs with prominent Nigerian figures.

Sharing the story of her life and how she weathered through stormy moments in her career, while speaking on this week’s episode of chat #WithChude, the award-winning veteran discussed her love life and the many rumours weaved about her career,

At the peak of her career, Onwenu was said to be romantically involved with the former President, Olusegun Obasanjo but she said there was no iota of truth in the rumour, adding that she and Obasanjo laughed about it back then.  

“They even said President Obasanjo married me. Obasanjo asked me about the rumour and we had a good laugh about it. Somebody had asked me that question four times, and by the fifth time I was ready to fight him to leave me alone. If he [Obasanjo] was going to marry me, then we’d make it public, why would I hide it” she disclosed.  

The rumours, however, did not end there. There were stories about her having love affairs with Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, King Sunny Ade and Sunny Okosun, saying the rumours at those time were quite a lot to handle.  

“A lot of times, I actually refused to address those questions,” she stated. 

Onwenu revealed that there was an element of truth in one of the rumours but, the romantic interest was not on her end. According to her, of all the men she was linked with, only Fela Anikulapo-Kuti showed romantic interest in her and asked for her hand in marriage. However, she declined the King of Afrobeats’ proposal.

Revealing more details about this proposal, she said, “Fela was a trickster, he knew I would say no. He had a bet with someone, that person is Dede Mabiaku. He told Dede I was going to run.”

She further disclosed that Fela’s proposal might have been his way of thanking her for standing up for him when he was charged with money laundering and jailed by the Federal Government. 

Speaking about her defence for him, she said, “I took a chance writing that widely read article in his favour. I said why arrest him for the money he has earned? ‘He’s taking his band outside and he’s going to pay for their hotel, this is so wrong’ and some people said ‘go and arrest her’. It was Idiagbon who said ‘no, leave that woman alone, she loves Nigeria.’” 

After many years of enduring rumours of affairs and a turbulent marriage that almost killed her, Onwenu revealed that she now enjoys a fulfilling love life with her childhood sweetheart.

Sharing bits of her love life, she stated, “The love that I share with this man started when I was 13 years old. This man loved me, knew me, built me up and told me who I was before I knew who I was…You don’t meet people like him all the time, he’s just very special.”