Daddy Freeze has reacted by disagreeing with Mary Remmy Njoku’s statement that men who pay bills aren’t doing their wives or the mother of their kids a favour.
Remmy had earlier said marriage/parenting is a partnership and men paying bills are simply holding up their end of the bargain.
I’m struggling to understand this.
Two people are working, but only one is paying the bills and it’s supposed to be a partnership?
The banality of this in my opinion, suggests a concoction of contradictions, conveying a message which on the one hand recommends partnership, but then on the other, advocates for African men, whilst at the same time seemingly ignoring the benefits of a patriarchal society.
Traditional African men don’t ‘partner’ with their wives, they pay bills and consequently own women, who in return serve them, while tolerating polygamy and concubinage.
Modernization propounds a social scheme denouncing some of the ‘benefits’ of a patricentric system, in favor of a balance in gender roles and privileges.
I find it inequitable to select only the aspects of both constructs that benefit only a particular gender, increasing the responsibilities of the other while depriving them of their dividends.
‘Sharing’ instead of ‘paying’ the bills, would have been more appropriate in my opinion.